Mary Lou Bustillos Martinez

MARY LOU BUSTILLOS MARTINEZ 

4 JULY 1932- 28 FEBRUARY 2004

February 28 2004, forever changed the lives of our family. The Matriarch of our family passed away. We knew it was coming, but at the same time, we were not prepared for the huge void. It’s been 21 years since my grandmother gained her wings, but the pain is the same as back then. We all lost a wife, friend, mother, grandmother and sister. She would of been 92 years. How I wish you were still here.

My grandmother was one of a kind, she was a very caring person. She would give you the shirt off her back. She made many friends throughout her life and everywhere she went. I miss her so much but I’m filled with some relief knowing all er pain and suffering are over. She left us with so many memories, those priceless times are forever sealed in our hearts.

She had beautiful green eyes, beautiful smile and so much love for everyone. Also, her meals and her selfless offering her time and willingness to listen who ever to anyone that needed a shoulder to cry on.  She had great words of wisdom and knew exactly how to make us feel special. Those wonderful moments help keep her memory alive.  She made a great impact on all our lives. 

One of my favorite sayings she always told us “learn from your mistakes and don’t repeat them.” She instilled a good work ethic and to do our best. She never judged us or anyone. She found the good qualities in everyone she met.

She enjoyed the holiday gathering at her home. It was always a full house. She enjoyed cooking meals and baking. She always had food at her table no matter what time you went to visit. She was very creative and enjoyed doing he crafts.

My grandmother was a beautiful strong woman. She will never be forgotten. She made you feel special. She provided us with a rich family history that goes back to the 1700’s.

One of the best memories I have is going to her house, every Sunday. Her home was always full of family no matter what time of day you went. It always felt like a family reunion every week. Her favorite pastime was playing poker and she usually won every time. She loved to decorate photo albums, collect decorative plates, ceramic bells and collecting angel figurines. She had a great sense of humor, she is loved and admired by many.

Grandma’s Favorite Things:

Hobby: Crafts, mixing with the vejitos and vejitas at the senior center

Actress: Lucille Ball and Shirley Temple

Movie: Gone With The Wind

Food:  Anything rich and fatty

Color: Red and Lavender

Flower: Roses

Song: “If you should lose me” (and oldie but goodie)

Singer: Alicia Villareal from Limite

TV Show: “Mujeres Enganadas” Spanish Novela

Holiday: Valentine’s Day

I’m including a few photos of her favorite items.

Photo credits:

Patricia Martinez, Bertha Estrada